Name and Shame…..

Earlier in the week, I posted about hard work, about what got me going in life, about how I see and perceive myself, my family and my surroundings. I was really up for writing this post. It was going to be my opportunity to put all those who I had encountered during my struggle so far in the limelight, partly because I feel they could get themself together and perform better in all walks of life, and some – well I just wanted to tell them “I did it on my own, but thank you for the ‘insult’ that drove me”.

I spent a lot of time thinking about how I wanted to put this post together…. my mind tells me that I don’t need to post this….. but my heart tells me that I do. I don’t want to signify the shortcomings of others, but I want to help them improve (indirectly). I don’t want to step on someones toes, but I feel that sometimes I just do know things better than you.

I guess part one originated from my frustrations at work (to a certain extent) over the last 2-3 weeks. My post on hard work (or working hard more specifically) came into my mind at the end of a day where I had brought my “A game” to the show, and had really worked my socks off. My frustrations, on that day, were because of how certain people work or even worse – give an impression that they are working around me. As much as I would want to name and shame them, thinking back over it, I don’t think I would achieve anything by signifying their behaviour.

Something else which also influenced this decision of mine was a post written by Sindhu over at the rest is still unwritten. More specifically, this bit did it for me – “The human tendency to want more is not just constrained to material objects. You want a prettier girlfriend, a sexier one-night-stand, a slimmer wife. You want a sweeter boyfriend, a hotter hook-up, a richer husband. You want a nicer boss, a funnier co-worker, and a smarter friend. You want people to HAVE more, DO more, BE more.”

Yes, I want and expect more from people and I am sure it works the other way as well. It is frustrating when things don’t work perfectly when you are giving it all you can. I could be smug and say that others are just not up to my level, or be gracious enough to acknowledge that they could be having an off day. What I do know is that certain people around me, both in the past and now, have met me eye to eye when a challenge has been laid, so I guess being patient does work…. maybe if I waited long enough – I would see the results that I want expect to see.

In my current work environment, I will definitely say that there are slackers…. I definitely know of atleast one person who spends most of Friday surfing the net because their boss doesn’t do Fridays and they are unsupervised; I do know of another one who gives the impression of work, but fulfills her personal interest while she should be working. Maybe it is a game of patience, maybe someone needs to shake things up…. I don’t know… I guess given the opportunity I would know how to influence these situations better; I know that these people can be better, more effective….. but then another question goes needs to be asked…. with them being way older than me…. should I be the one telling them how to do things better?